It really is human nature to enjoy sexuality and to be physically aroused by the things that turn us on. This isn’t something people should be ashamed of because it really is out of our control. Our bodies are biologically programmed to enjoy sex and to have sexual feelings and physical responses to sexual stimuli and to people that we find attractive. When we see something or someone that turns us on, our body has a sexual response. We can’t control that response, and to try to train our bodies to not respond to what naturally arouses us is very unhealthy for us emotionally and mentally. In order for us to have healthy, happy lives, we all need to learn to embrace our sexuality and not be afraid of it. We’re just doing what comes naturally. Being at peace with that is healthy.

So much free porn means so many opportunities for someone to see something that they shouldn’t have. At work, school, the library, on public transportation, even at home with mom, dad, a roommate or friend: these are all places where things can go terribly wrong in a heartbeat. Free porn is like sex itself: everybody knows that everybody does it, but it is not something you want to be caught in the middle of doing. Or viewing, as the case may be. Especially when you are supposed to be doing something else at the time…like working at your job. Things like that are frowned upon and might even get you fired!

The only thing to do if someone catches you watching free porn is to apologize, then get as far away from them with your smart phone and your pants hiked up as fast as possible…or at the very least click out of that damn website and get back to work! Yes, free porn in your possession sometimes does not end well, it is the very few occasions when someone catches you and they sit right down next to you and start enjoying the free porn themselves. We need to be constantly on guard to avoid an embarrassing incident, but the access to it all makes the possibility of getting caught much more likely these days.

During the past decade, reality television shows have taken off like your basic rockets from a launching pad. There is always a great debate about just how much of the material presented on them is actually real, but for some reason people are fascinated by watching other people who are supposedly just living their lives like they do every other day when no one happens to be following them around with a camera and a film crew.

Many people believe that all of the popular dating reality shows are just a form of soft core porn and that it is a quick and easy way for the producers of the shows to be able to show people making out and rolling around hot and horny without needing a special storyline to facilitate the intimate contact. Well, if that is indeed the case, then the show A Shot at Love starring Tila Tequila most certainly filled the bill for all of those people who were tuning in hoping to see some hot action taking place. If we were not familiar with the premise when we first tuned in, we soon learned that Tila is a bisexual woman who was looking to find love with either a hot straight guy, a lipstick lesbian, or maybe a more masculine lesbian, who knew.

It seems at first glance like our girl is into anyone that happens to float her boat and we never know which part of the ocean she intends to swim in on any particular day. This makes her reality dating show much more interesting than any of the others on the network channels that air during prime time and tend to confine people to choosing from suitors or maids of only one gender. There is no doubt that Tila’s show had more hot action than any other reality dating show can ever hope to; oh, and she has a sex tape too, just in case you like your core a little on the harder side.

What we do have to make an effort to keep in mind however, is the fact that we do not have to pigeon hole ourselves, and that we all have the freedom to make whatever choices we wish, or certainly not to choose at all. It seems that our society as a whole just loves to spend a great deal of time figuring out where people go, how they fit and what category they fall into. It is easy to admire someone like Tila, who is willing to simply go where her emotions and her attraction take her without regard for all of those predetermined categories such as straight, lesbian, and bisexual that other people seem to be so overly concerned with. All that we succeed in accomplish when we put people into categories is to give ourselves a false sense of order, as we determine in our own minds where people belong. This makes it easier for us to determine our expectations as to their behavior, conventions, likes and dislikes.

Nothing could be a bigger waste of time. Not only is it none of our business what people like or who they sleep with, the idea that every member of a certain group will always behave in a certain way is just complete and utter foolishness. It is far better to spend our time celebrating our differences rather than categorizing them.

There are some porn producers who are trying to cater to female interests and shoot films in which the female characters are empowered and in control. There are plenty of films out now where the women are quite simply embracing their sex lives and enjoying their sexuality. The films that cater to women tend to have more of a story line and some character development, because women tend to want more of a story that fleshes out the sexual escapades and gives them more substance. In many cases, they use more real looking women of all different shapes, sizes and ages rather than the perfect Barbie doll model often found in porn that caters more toward the male population. The women who are comfortable enough with their own sexuality to enjoy watching porn tend to be older, usually in their 40’s and above, and they want to see women in their own age range looking hot and sexy and powerful because it makes them feel great and empowered.

As more and more porn becomes available that cater to the sensibilities and interests of women, more and more women will become interested in watching porn. As porn producers embrace that, they will find a largely untapped market ready to spend their money on what interests them.

Free sex is not free at all, as it costs us in time and attention, at the very least.

Unlike those wild times we see in our pornmovies, partners finding their way to free sex are playing the odds more often than not to make free sex happen. They are either searching across websites they know amiable to casual hook-ups, make themselves seen at well-known liberal gatherings that sometimes even turn into naughty play parties, or let it be known through their circle of friends that they are looking for a fuck-buddy. It’s a forever cycle of jockeying for position, of implying intentions and of keeping yourself far from the majority of people dating.

Free sex proponents are playing the odds that they will indeed find someone with the same sensibilities, someone who understands well what they are getting into-and why-and understands how to extricate themselves from a situation that, though it might start out as free sex it might turn into anything but over time.

We can all fantasize about being porn stars in our lives, scoring with big- breasted girls with bleached anuses and guys with tree-trunks for cocks but the truth is in order to have free sex in the real everyday world we have to work at finding it, maintaining it, nurturing it and letting it go free at times when it just isn’t working and we feel anything less than free in the sex we are having.

There really is nothing free in this world but at the very least we can get closer to those sexual situations that are freer then others.

We would probably go through the many phases of grief until we came to a state of acceptance. It’s impossible to do much of anything once this kind of cat is let out of the bag. There are the feelings of embarrassment and vulnerability. Logically, there is anger and denial. But ultimately, there is a futile acquiescence to the reality of the situation.

It’s not unreasonable to state that sexual intercourse is one of the most intimate experiences that two people can share. It takes an epic amount of trust to allow that moment to be preserved by recording it. To then release that footage is such an incredible violation of that bond. Granted, some people like to maintain plausible deniability about a sex tape while still secretly enjoying their new found 15 minutes of fame. Others, however, are not quite as jazzed.

Admittedly, filming a sex act with a willing partner can be an astonishingly arousing experience. Watching each other fuck can lead to so many different sexual possibilities. It is a fantasy that many of us share. But unleashing that closeness for the world to view is rather despicable.

The thrust of the problem is this: there is a great deal of people who don’t have the experience, the foresight, or the judgment to safeguard themselves against this scenario. Mainly because they are too young and too fragile. So the next time we are asked to participate in a sex video by our partner, we need to really take time to deliberate over our answer. Is this someone you believe in, or is this someone you believe would sell you out?

Luckily for us, the world wide web offers us every opportunity to enjoy our porn in any way, shape or form that happens to suit us. When it comes times for most of us to take a run at the myriad of free sex sites that exist on the world wide web, the last thing on our minds is the thought of talking to anyone at all. We want to surf, we want to enjoy, we want to zone out, and ultimately we want to take care of the inevitable conclusion to our journey around the Internet adult entertainment sites. We undertake this endeavor in the privacy of our own home, and we love the idea that we have complete solitude as we go about our business. There are many folks among us who like to talk about sex. They like to talk about all of the different sexual possibilities that exist, they like to hear about the experiences that others before them have had with a certain activity or position, and they may even like to talk during the act of sex as a means to kick things up another notch or so. It is most certainly no accident that the various phone sex services are so wildly popular these days as many people find a good session of dirty talk to be quite exciting and erotic, as well as great fodder for future foreplay. Today, whether we like to watch porn, to talk about porn, or to use porn to get some new ideas, we can find everything that we need on the world wide web.

The awkwardness that some may feel while watching sex videos can work to your advantage. Your relationship may need a jolt, a real sense of adventure and risk-taking, and sex videos can surely be a cure. Not everyone will agree. Some people will be even more repulsed than usual by their other half. But that is the risk you take. On the other hand, some may be pleasantly stunned and even appreciative of the effort you are putting into saving the relationship.

One erotic route you may want to take with sex videos is to take your partner by surprise with a masturbation tactic. Put one of the sex videos on and begin masturbating to it when you know your partner will walk in on you. Or maybe you know they will see you but not even comment on what you are doing. Either way presents a deliciously naughty scenario that never existed before. It pays to sometimes remind yourself of how hot it can be to view your partner stimulating their own body. It is the ultimate vulnerable act. And vulnerable is always a hot good thing. Sex videos may not be a cure all, but when your ship is going down, it certainly helps to try any kind of life preserver.

If this is true of our sex life-and it is, we just have to admit it-then you can damn well be assured it is true when we watch our free porn videos. Sometimes we can muted to reality, we get chafed with all our masturbation and our eyes will become cross-eyes staring at our laptop screens or squinting down at our smart phones. Sometimes a little is even too much. Sometimes we have to push back from the table and give our peepers a rest from the porn.

But it is so attractive and addictive, isn’t it? It comes at us so fast free and fun. It is so easy to take to, requires no conversation and even if we watch those dirty movies with a lover, they are just perfect for compartmentalizing what we see and using it how we wish even in throes of those great orgasmic times with that fantabulous lover. It is no wonder we take to free porn videos like we do, as often as we do…we’d be searching for them, thinking about them, doing all we could to view them even if they weren’t free, but now that they mostly are, we are having at them all the time.

We don’t see the detrimental effects because they are incremental and sometimes not as terrific as critics of porn would have us believe. But free porn videos are pervasive, slide in under the door or our notice and sometimes, just for a little bit, we might turn away from the fuck film and find stimulation from another quarter.

Just for a little bit.