Is kinky sex unhealthy?

Many people wonder whether kinky sex is healthy. Sex experts, heard on TV and the radio, often ascribe an interest in kinky things, especially dominance and submission or other aspects of BDSM to mental imbalances or frequently to one being the victim of abusive behavior in childhood. Certainly it is true that some people who are exposed to abuse may seek out kinky behaviors. A person who had an unhealthy relationship with their parents might seek out a Daddy/daughter kink relationship or someone who was spanked might even discover they enjoy spankings as an adult. But does this mean they are unhealthy?

First off it is true that many people are attracted to kink with no history of abuse whatsoever. There are people who enjoy bondage or tying up others without any history of being, for example, kidnapped and held in cages. One needn’t have a history of assault to enjoy a little rough sex now and again. Many people who enjoy the most perverse things, like watersports, latex or rubber, anal sex, fisting, or even sex play with knives are surprisingly well-adjusted people, professionals, and respectable members of their community.

So perhaps this kinky sex behavior is respectable. Maybe it is even healing for people who have been abused. After all, one thing that therapists do with people who have fears or insecurities is try to disarm them so they can be faced directly and seen in a different context. Human sexuality is one of the most disarming and transformative things there is, it’s supposed to be embolden and there are certainly so many other activities partners in a vanilla couple get into that harm and abuse one another When exploring dark topics in sexuality, like many aspects of BDSM, one is actually taking the terrible or scary and moving it into a realm filled with pleasure, with orgasms, and even with laughter. What was once dangerous and disturbing becomes a source of hard cocks and slippery, swollen hot cunts.

So maybe one should question why this whole thing is the way it is — why do we assume that those into BDSM are maladjusted perverts or people out to harm others? Perhaps one instead should focus on how this elevates people, heals them, and makes them happy.

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