Coming Out of the Slut Closet

Monogamy is hard. Why do we have such a hard time admitting or accepting this? A reader writes into us about her struggle.

I have been in an off and on relationship with a man for the last several years. I feel like I could end up spending the rest of my life with him. My problem is I don’t think I can be faithful.

We have trouble staying together because I can’t help but cheat on him with other men and women. We’re not together right now, but we keep our sexual relationship going from about an arm’s length.We would both like to get back together, but he says he can’t trust me. I want to be content in a monogamous relationship so badly, but I really can’t last very long before getting hopelessly distracted.

There is a lot of talk about gay people coming out of the closet. What you need to do, is come out of the slut closet.

Our reader does not sound likely to ever be content in a closed relationship. If you are as in love as you claim you are, and can’t stay faithful, it speaks to a larger issue. If you are ready to move on, before you get into another monogamous relationship, be honest with yourself and your potential partner about what your needs are, and who you are. If you aren’t, you have to be honest with your partner. Because clearly, you are not a monogamous woman. Cut the bullshit.

You are a slut, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be an ethical one. Don’t waste your time in relationships that have no chance of working. It is much more worth your time in a long term sense to be honest from the beginning about who you are and what you really want.

Monogamy may not be right for you, but that doesn’t make you a villain. Monogamy failed you, you didn’t fail it. It’s not natural for us as humans to be sexually exclusive. And if we chose to do so, we need to come by it’s hardships honestly. You, however, seem well beyond that point. You have a need to fuck other people that isn’t something you can hide anymore.

While it’s true that this will result in a significant proportion of people walking away from a relationship with you, but the ones who don’t are more worthy of your time and effort. For now, enjoy some free porn and console yourself as you think of all the ass you’ll be getting once you’re out of the slut closet.

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